• How To Apply Confidence In Your Identity


    Do you ever feel like everything is your fault? It’s easy to blame broken relationships, failed careers, and unhealthy mental health habits on yourself. Often, this can all be related to your lack of confidence in your identity. Not being confident in who you are can compromise all different areas of your life. When you’re insecure in your identity, you can struggle with full, healthy relationships. Not knowing your true identity can force you to convince yourself of false confidence, which never lasts. Does it seem like no matter what you do, you never find a good relationship or achieve your goals? Not having confidence in your identity might be the reason why. Keep reading to find out how to change this pattern!


    Everyone has struggled with a relationship, and many people have had one go up in flames. It might have ended with “it’s not you, it’s me”, or “it’s not the right timing”. Maybe, it was something deeper. A lack of confidence in your identity can often lead to insecurities, which are often the “something deeper” that causes a relationship to fail. Everyone has insecurities, but it’s easy to let them take over in a relationship. Your insecurity in your identity might manifest as jealousy, lack of self-esteem, trust issues, or depression.

    People often have insecurities about the way they look or talk, or maybe their past or goals. It’s easy to get taken over by your insecurities. When you struggle with insecurities, remind yourself that your identity is not in your characteristics or your goals. Like we’ve talked about before in the newsletters, your identity comes from God, who is unchanging, and therefore your identity is unchanging. It’s okay to have insecurities, we all do! But you can remember that those insecurities come from a lack of confidence in your identity.


    The workplace is full of people who don’t know who they are, hiding their insecurities behind ambition, or lack thereof. If you struggle with your identity, you might always feel behind the curve, or lacking the ability to achieve your goals. Being around other people who might be more or less successful can give you a false sense of confidence or inadequacy.

    You need to separate your career and goals from everyone else’s! You are your own person, and comparison only causes jealousy and pain. Finding confidence in your identity can not only make you a better employee but help you achieve your goals more quickly! Remember this-the things you are insecure about are often unnoticeable or insignificant to others. Often, many of your own insecurities can only matter to you.


    Your mind is a brilliant machine, tuned perfectly to do thousands of things at once. When you have an insecurity about our identity, it burrows its way into your mind and often manifests as a mental struggle. If you are not confident in your identity, it might lead to anxiety, depression, trust issues, or major fears. Like we’ve talked about, your identity is the foundation for everything in your life. When you are dealing with a mental health struggle, it often comes from instability somewhere. Knowing that your identity is secure in God gives you a stable foundation for good mental health. Having confidence in your identity is so important for your mental health, and so many struggles you might have all lead back to a lack of it. If you are struggling with your mental health, schedule a Discovery Call with me today and let me help you find confidence in your identity so you can live fully.